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Fear, anger, guilt, loneliness, helplessness a...", "author": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Dr. Steve Sarche", "jobTitle": "Board Certified Psychiatrist" }, "publisher": { "@type": "Organization", "name": "Denver Psychiatry", "url": "https://denverpsychiatry.com" }, "datePublished": "2011-03-31T14:38:01+00:00", "mainEntityOfPage": { "@type": "WebPage", "@id": "https://denverpsychiatry.com/article/pain-pain-go-away" } } ] --- [ Denver Psychiatry Dr. Steve Sarche, D.O. ](#home) [](tel:303-393-8808) [ Denver Psychiatry Dr. Steve Sarche, D.O. ](#home) [Home](#home) Services ### Conditions We Treat [ ADHD Treatment Child & adult ADHD specialist care ](/adhd)[ Anxiety Treatment Generalized anxiety, panic, social anxiety ](/anxiety-treatment)[ Depression Treatment Major depression, bipolar, mood disorders ](/depression-treatment)[ PTSD & Trauma Treatment Trauma recovery focused on full healing ](/ptsd-trauma-treatment) ### Specialty Care [ Child & Adolescent Psychiatry Fellowship-trained, ages 10 and up ](/child-adolescent-psychiatry)[ Performance Optimization Precision psychiatry for high performers ](/performance-optimization)[ Medication Management Expert prescription and monitoring ](#services) #### Talk to Dr. Sarche Call to schedule your initial evaluation [Call Now](tel:303-393-8808) About ### About Us [ Dr. Steve Sarche, D.O. 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 IT FREAKIN’ HURTS!   They are suffering and feel miserable.  In my view, one characteristic that many chronic pain sufferers share is a feeling of anger.   Anger can lead to all of the emotions in Dr. Cutler’s quote and more.   I therefore believe that, in order to help deal with chronic pain, a person must work on his or her anger about the pain.  Pain is real.  I never question a person’s experience of pain.  I believe that the way that person feels is completely valid.  What I urge is that the person work on the thoughts those feelings cause.   One of the most effective ways to do this is to first accept the situation.  Accept that hurting all of the time is horrible.  That it should feel awful and should cause strong negative emotions.  This is important because without acceptance, a person’s energy can be displaced from where it needs to be.   There is a quote about acceptance that I like: “The rain is unbiased and the recipient of this downfall has the option to either accept this or yell at the clouds his whole life.”   I do not know the origin of this quote, but it illustrates my point.  The greater time the person focuses only on the pain and angry negative feelings, the smaller the chance of improvement.   This makes sense if you think about it.   If you never accept a problem, never admit that it is your problem, how can you ever work on it?  This does not mean you have to “let go” of your emotions or feelings about it.  You can hate the problem, be furious at it, feel awful about it, regret it, and wish it was not there, but then ask yourself what you can do about it.  The key to moving forward and improving is to challenge the negative and maladaptive thoughts that the feelings cause and to replace them with adaptive and coping thoughts.  This is the fundamental basis for a therapy called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.  It has been studied in chronic pain and shown to be a benefit.  This is especially true when combined with medical treatment for the pain, good self-care and treatment of any other condition, such as depression, that could interfere with recovery.  Bad things happen to people all the time.  When those things cause injury or chronic pain, it is easy to get caught up in the “unfairness” of that and the anger about it.  Your mind has the power to make pain much worse or better.  To achieve the latter, seek support.   Never try to “go it alone” with pain.  Find a good therapist.   Work on yourself.   Surround yourself with friends.  Use all the resources you can to help you stop yelling at the clouds and to get your umbrella out. 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